According to Stephen Covey, a famous writer, habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Skill is how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three.

Stephen Covey has conducted research over the traits and habits of the effective personalities and concluded that the following 7 habits are found in most of the highly effective people:

Habit No. 1: Be Proactive
Habit No. 2: Begin with the end in Mind
Habit No. 3: Put first things first
Habit No. 4: Think win-win
Habit No. 5: Seek first to understand ….. Then to be understood
Habit No. 6: Synergize
Habit No. 7: Sharpen the Saw

What prompted me to share the research work of Stephen Covey on Youbihar is the behavior of the members which sometimes gives an impression that Youbihar is not an organized group at all. Instead it appears as a rowdy crowd of loud mouths. People harp on stressing upon a non-issue and impress upon others to fall in line forcefully. Apparently fake IDs are induced and sponsored by the easily identifiable personalities. But they do not bother because they have to satisfy their psychological trimmings with a view to establish their supremacy over others. People have thoughts but they are marred with distractions. Criticizes are made without putting forth a reasoned reason. Foul languages are used unabated and at will. A churlish dance of idiosyncrasy is staged against the wishes of many. But I have every hope that people do not desire undesirable to happen, uncalled for to flourish.

If I am allowed to carry on with the sharing of the said research work of Stephen Covey, with due respect I will put it in a concise way for the conception of the members without in any way attempting to teach anybody or to be understood as a teacher or a preacher. I would like to make it clear that my attempt is to share the research work of Stephen Covey for the benefit of you, me and anybody else. I wish I were permitted.

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Comment by Samina Ahmad on February 28, 2011 at 12:59pm

Conscience = Theoretical knowledge + Practical experience + Outside exposure (Awareness) = Conception
The ideas put forth so far clearly indicate that if someone obeys the conscience, one can reduce the chances of making mistakes. But I would like to draw attention of all the esteemed members particularly Chaluji towards the above mentioned equation, which suggests that conscience and conception are determined by the knowledge, experience and awareness we have. It is vividly clear that if our knowledge that we have acquired through our schooling or reading books or listening lectures of the teachers etc. is shallow or not up to the mark, it will certainly imbalance our Conscience and Conception. Similarly the practical experience we get during the years while facing problems at home or outside are feeble and meek, it will also bar our conscience and conception to get mature. Further the quantity and quality of awareness depend upon the circumstances we are placed in, the upbringing, the surroundings where we live in. If we have been confined within the box atmosphere, there is likely that our awareness level will be very limited and imperfect thereby affecting the Conscience or Conception adversely. The point is that if there is ‘gadbadi’ at the Conception level itself, how one can understand right or wrong judiciously and take decisions aptly. 

Comment by Anil Kumar Giri on February 28, 2011 at 11:10am
Bhai chalu chamar: sahi bolat ba ra lekin sab koyee ek jaisa na ho la. Ka tahar 20 so angoriya ek saaman ba.
Comment by CHALU CHAMAR on February 28, 2011 at 11:01am
लिखना कितना आसान है,वो भी इन्टर्नेट की दुनिया में,सर्च-एन्ज़िन से काँपी पेस्ट कर, येहाँ तो कोइ सिधे मुंह किसि से कोइ बात तो करता नहीं,ना किसि में इतना हिम्म्त कि सच को सच बोल सके । इन बडी बडी बातों का क्या कहना ।असली ज़िन्दगी में लोग क्या हैं उन्हें ही मालुम होगा ।
Comment by Anil Kumar Giri on February 28, 2011 at 8:33am

Knowledge: You gain from everywhere education helps you only to increase the dimension of ones thinking.

Skills: Are acquired not taught by a teacher a teacher only will help your in identifying your skills.

Desire: First a will to DO and then a strong character to carry on in an innovative and concluding path.


Comment by Anil Kumar Giri on February 28, 2011 at 8:27am

Life is a matter of case of study and one can learn a lot from self if one is matured enough to accept ones weakness and strengths. Everyone of us has some or the other weakness which we try to hide from and this in due course of time becomes a habit and at a point when we are losing we argue - give unwanted reasons to prove our baseless point inspite of knowing that we are mistake and this habit leads to folly and failure.


Lot of us before taking with certain work in hand start analysing the pros and cons inbetween finding answers of words like if - but - why - when time goes away. It is important to start and then while moving on think and take advises - decision how to conclude.


We always break our heads in solving the bigger problems first and keep petty issues idle and one fine morning everything getting mix up and we in Soup. An intelligent habitual character solves the petty issues first and always thinks how to solve the bigger issues with his own tools and even doesnot hesitate to take help of others - this is a win win situation but people generally keep everything to themselves thinking that others may get away with accolades and credit which is uncalled.


We all are born preachers and we always feel happy and glorified by advising others but we forget we have crater in our back yards. We learn a lot by listening and reading an advice can come from a person who is at lowest level of society and a person from highest level of society but one should have character and patience to listen - understand and make others understand. What people say and what we think and what it conveys has to be properly churned and essence of all the real substance which is award winning.


Understanding things - constant listening - continous improvement - a fair atittude to accept correct and flaws - a better understanding of others - willingness to work as team - lead from no where - skill to tame the unforeseen

Comment by RAJKUMAR SINGH on February 28, 2011 at 7:49am

@ Samina ,

Sanskrit quote is from Geeta ,which means ' do not give up ,do not run away .

Comment by Anil Kumar Giri on February 27, 2011 at 11:10pm

This topic I can't write anything.

Do mistakes accept them but ensure you never repeat them.

Habits are hard te die but still they can be improve for the betterment.


Comment by CHALU CHAMAR on February 27, 2011 at 11:01pm

Hum aur intelligent, aap mazak karti hain. hum toh chamde ka dhandha karte hain,janwaron ke.

asli me mere baba-grandfather ,rajput the lekin baat baat me gaon me logon ka khaal kheench liya karte the,humne socha hum ye kabhi nahi  karenge.isliye janwar ke khaal ka vepaar karte hain, ye baat alag hai ki aaj kal kitne hi inasan aur janwar me fark nahi hota,us samay mujhe mere baba ki bahut yaad aati hai.

Comment by Samina Ahmad on February 27, 2011 at 9:50pm
दुसरे की गलतीयों को देखकर खुद की गलती सुधारना बहुत ही अच्छी बात होती है! If one's perception and conscience based on one's adept knowledge makes one understand that someone's certain activity is not apt, one should refrain from such activity. चालूजी आपका तो नाम ही चालू है means intelligent.
Comment by Samina Ahmad on February 27, 2011 at 9:41pm

Are You Proactive?

 Stephen Covey has prescribed certain questions to test how proactive we are? Below are questions:


  • Do you take responsibility for your life, or do you blame other people or outside circumstances for what happens to you?
  • Do you worry about conditions over which you have little or no control? Or do you focus your time and energy on those things which you can control?
  • Do you allow others to make choices or decisions for you?
  • Do you ask for what you want, or do you expect others to magically know what you need?
  • Do you take action to make things happen, or do you wait for others to act?
  • Are you waiting for someone’s permission before you act?
  • If you try to achieve something you want and you fail, do you give up, or do you start looking for a different approach?

यूबिहार सोसल नेटवर्क अब फ़ेसबुक पे है. **इधर क्लिक कीजिए**

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